The world I see: When you start loving yourself loving others comes easy.

Loving yourself is an easy task right?

NOPE! It can be very difficult. However, it is the key to changing the world you see.  Especially if you grew up to believe that love has conditions. The truth is that loving yourself is a human necessity. It is how you take care of yourself and your happiness. It supports your physical, mental and spiritual growth. This can look different for every person bringing us back to the world you see.  Making a conscious effort to love yourself allows for you to accept the things that are meant for you and cultivate the world around you. Which means once you really start loving yourself for who you are loving others for who they are comes easy. How you love yourself is projected into the world around you.  Unfortunately, many of us have been programmed to believe if you love yourself that you are vain, selfish, conceited and egotistical (just to name a few).

I personally have had a hard time loving myself and discerning my emotions. Anytime I would do something for myself I tend to associate it with guilt. I had been programmed to always give to others because the more you give to others the more they will love you. That is bad programming. The truth is others will not love you for what you can give. It leaves things unbalanced. There has to be an equal give and take. You cannot constantly give to others and never give to yourself.

The idea of changing behavior seemed easy enough. Yeah right! Changing habits is the hardest thing to decide to take on. Especially when one of the habits to break was negative self-talk, body shaming and showing myself love. These things are deeply rooted in some of some of the deepest darkest parts of people. How are you supposed to love those parts? It is difficult. It takes being consistent and persistent. Loving yourself is an ongoing process. It’s not like you can just wake up one day and say I am going to love myself. I mean you can but I assure you there is more to the process. There is a whole world around you, obligations, responsibilities and other factors that come into play.

What you can do is wake up and make the choice to make an effort to show yourself love every day. One day turns into 2 days, 2 days turns into a week and weeks turn into years. Before you know it showing yourself love becomes second nature. You will also noticed by showing yourself love you are able to give and receive love easier. The next thing you know you are looking at your life in awe admiring the world around you.

Unfortunately, for me I had to get to a place where I felt like I was losing everything before I even realized that I had to start loving myself and filling my own emotional cup.  The key words there are I felt. The reality was I still had everything things were just changing. Except my perception that wasn’t changing. My perception was my reality. I was unlovable because nobody cared about me. Nobody was choosing me. Nobody cared about what I was going through. These were all lies I was telling myself. I was so focused on what others were doing/not doing for me to show me they loved me that I failed to look at the once person that could change it all. ME!

Let me make this clear. It wasn’t easy. I decided I wanted to get back to the basics. I wanted to do something that I enjoyed. That I could consistently do and be persistent about it. I started reading. I continued to go to the gym. I started eating better. I was feeling better about myself and things around me. I was having a more positive outlook on life.  Then the universe decide to turn my life upside down. The universe decided it was time for me to wake up (which I will explain later) as if I wasn’t already going through enough.

My spiritual awakening sent me into a state of confusion. Since I was already reading I decided to read more. In my reading I noticed a common theme throughout each book was loving yourself to unlock the world around you. This wasn’t just loving the things about myself I liked, it had to be the things I disliked too.  There were tears, laughs and outburst just to name a few things. In hind sight I understand it all.

How did I start?

Every day I wake up I empower myself by allowing myself to choose (allowing for flexibility).

Every day I do one thing for myself that shows me that I love me. It can be as easy as doing my hair or make up or taking a bubble bath.

I set time for meditation (even if it is a small amount of time).

I use positive affirmations.

I make a conscious effort to talk to myself with kindness and compassion.

I forgive myself when I find myself being unkind to myself.

I started setting boundaries with myself and people.

I started journaling.

I started to listen to my intuition and identifying what I was passionate about.

I allowed for time outs.

I started to do things creative. (ex. Singing and writing)

I started taking classes to tune into my intuition more.

I named things I was grateful for to bring me into the present moment.

Showing yourself love will look different for everyone. I am going to be honest with you. Starting to focus inward is going to be a difficult task. It is one that does get easier the more you do it. The more you accept and the more you show yourself a little love and compassion. Before you know it you will notice as you begin to love yourself more loving others is easy.

The world I see. Its my world and ya’ll live in it.

My last post discussed how taking humanity head on was a difficult task. Bringing the world back to humanity is not a task for one person. This lead me to start to look at the world around me, my world. One of my favorite snarky statements is “Its Chrissy’s world and ya’ll live in it”. I never realized how much truth was in that statement until I decided to head on my path of self-discovery (I like to call my journey). It was my ah ha moment. It all had to start with me because I am the center of my world. My world is my reality. Just like your world is your reality.

Let me make one thing clear. I am no saint. I have a lot of baggage and life lessons I have learned. I lived out of a place of shame, guilt, negative self-talk and judgement. Not only for myself but for others. I am quite aware that I am the villain in some people’s stories. The hardest thing a person has to do is look themselves in the mirror. I always told my children they never have to worry about making anyone else happy as long as they could look themselves in the mirror and be happy with what they see staring back at them. The sad thing was I didn’t practice what I preach. Sure, I have accomplished anything I have really set my mind to but like I mentioned earlier something had always been missing. I wasn’t sure that when I looked in the mirror I even knew who the person looking back at me was. If you can think of the name I have been called it and I have done the calling. It’s all good now. I have accepted who am I, where I have been and all I have done. There is nothing that someone could say to me now I haven’t already accepted and forgiven myself for. What some people tend to forget is that forgiveness is never for the receiver it’s for the person doing the forgiving. Sorry for the rant. Now back to the world I saw. 

What most people don’t know about me is I am a hopeless romantic that placed a lot of value on worldly possessions/money. I wanted to find the perfect man that would love me for me and not want to change me. I wanted the perfect family or my idea of the perfect family. I wanted the career, the cars and the house. What I didn’t realize is that I had already set myself up for disappointment. There is no such thing a the perfect anything. I certainly did not get the perfect family or up bringing. I came from a broken home. I was so caught up with the idea of being in love that I would over look red flags. I was a yes person. Yes to everything! Saying no would make me feel guilty because I was letting others down and hurting them. I was the first to apologize in any situation. I would find myself in situations that I really didn’t resonate with me. What did resonate with me. What did I really value? I don’t know I could have really answered that question before I started to plunge into my self-discovery.

“Chrissy’s world” was at a place of total chaos. There was so much change going on in my life all at one time. This life I had built was changing so fast and I was trying to control it. My finances were up in the air, my marriage was a mess, my heart was broken and the job I loved so much was just not as fulfilling as it used to be. I had spent a decade plus working and building a life. Doing things that we are brought up to believe are going to bring us to living a full life. Well, at least what I was taught. Work hard, do more, get more, have more and be more that were the common themes. Yet after I would achieve what I worked for it would be onto the next. Never really taking time to enjoy the fruits of my labor. It left me empty. I was empty in a lot of ways but have more than most so I was OK with it. Something was still missing and I went looking for it. I looked for it through people, things and places but never in the one place that really mattered. I didn’t even stop to look at myself. What was I doing that was impacting the world I see and how I perceive it? If this chaos is happening in my life how am I projecting this chaos onto others?

One thing that never even crossed my mind is that I was setting myself up for heart break. There were things that I was doing that was shaping the world around me as I knew it. The crazy thing was I was stuck in the mindset of pointing fingers and blaming others. Not taking responsibility for how I was allowing things to happen in my life. The universe is going to give you what you believe you deserve. The universe was going to send back to me exactly what I was giving to myself and others. I didn’t believe I deserved love. I didn’t believe it. I certainly didn’t think I was receiving it. At least not what I expected love to be. Since I didn’t believe I deserved love I really never allowed anyone to really love me or get close to me. Maybe I was setting my expectations too high. Maybe my expectations of how things were supposed to happen were hindering me from seeing the full picture.

It was time. It was time for change. No one could change the world around me but me. It all started with me therefore I had to be the start of the change. I started really looking at myself. What were things I liked about me? What were things I disliked about me? What were things I was grateful for in my life? What were things I wanted to change? I needed a new perspective. I started doing one thing every day to show myself I loved me. I started naming things I was grateful for every day. I was working out and eating better. I never miss a Monday. I was reading blogs and learning about being mindful. I began to keep a journal and work on my Chakras. I was starting to see that through my healing process the world around me was healing too. As I let my light shine the people around me were also starting to change. Through my journal I was beginning to accept and love myself for who I was. I began to identify and associating my actions with emotions. I began to really understand myself and how I was interacting and shaping the world around me. When I would have a set back I started to show myself little compassion. Which lead to me showing others compassion. In the past where I had difficulty with empathy it was now becoming so much easier. It all started with little steps I began to take to show myself the love I had been searching for and giving to others. 

Plunging deeper into my self-discovery I really began to think. If I am capable to rebuilding the world around me maybe my story can help someone rebuild the world around them starting a chain reaction. Our perception is our reality. We are all a product of the environments we live in. Think about it, what if we (you and me) really took a good look at the world we see. What if we started to make little changes within ourselves. What if these changes with in ourselves allowed us to experience real unconditional love. These changes would then allow us to meet others just as they are. No judgement, no blame, no shame, no guilt and especially no expectation.

The world I see. Its my world and ya’ll live in it.

My last post discussed how taking humanity head on was a difficult task. Bringing the world back to humanity is not a task for one person. This lead me to start to look at the world around me, my world. One of my favorite snarky statements is “Its Chrissy’s world and ya’ll live in it”. I never realized how much truth was in that statement until I decided to head on my path of self-discovery (I like to call my journey). It was my ah ha moment. It all had to start with me because I am the center of my world. My world is my reality. Just like your world is your reality.

Let me make one thing clear. I am no saint. I have a lot of baggage and life lessons I have learned. I lived out of a place of shame, guilt, negative self-talk and judgement. Not only for myself but for others. I am quite aware that I am the villain in some people’s stories. The hardest thing a person has to do is look themselves in the mirror. I always told my children they never have to worry about making anyone else happy as long as they could look themselves in the mirror and be happy with what they see staring back at them. The sad thing was I didn’t practice what I preach. Sure, I have accomplished anything I have really set my mind to but like I mentioned earlier something had always been missing. I wasn’t sure that when I looked in the mirror I even knew who the person looking back at me was. If you can think of the name I have been called it and I have done the calling. It’s all good now. I have accepted who am I, where I have been and all I have done. There is nothing that someone could say to me now I haven’t already accepted and forgiven myself for. What some people tend to forget is that forgiveness is never for the receiver it’s for the person doing the forgiving. Sorry for the rant. Now back to the world I saw. 

What most people don’t know about me is I am a hopeless romantic that placed a lot of value on worldly possessions/money. I wanted to find the perfect man that would love me for me and not want to change me. I wanted the perfect family or my idea of the perfect family. I wanted the career, the cars and the house. What I didn’t realize is that I had already set myself up for disappointment. There is no such thing a the perfect anything. I certainly did not get the perfect family or up bringing. I came from a broken home. I was so caught up with the idea of being in love that I would over look red flags. I was a yes person. Yes to everything! Saying no would make me feel guilty because I was letting others down and hurting them. I was the first to apologize in any situation. I would find myself in situations that I really didn’t resonate with me. What did resonate with me. What did I really value? I don’t know I could have really answered that question before I started to plunge into my self-discovery.  

“Chrissy’s world” was at a place of total chaos. There was so much change going on in my life all at one time. This life I had built was changing so fast and I was trying to control it. My finances were up in the air, my marriage was a mess, my heart was broken and the job I loved so much was just not as fulfilling as it used to be. I had spent a decade plus working and building a life. Doing things that we are brought up to believe are going to bring us to living a full life. Well, at least what I was taught. Work hard, do more, get more, have more and be more that were the common themes. Yet after I would achieve what I worked for it would be onto the next. Never really taking time to enjoy the fruits of my labor. It left me empty. I was empty in a lot of ways but have more than most so I was OK with it. Something was still missing and I went looking for it. I looked for it through people, things and places but never in the one place that really mattered. I didn’t even stop to look at myself. What was I doing that was impacting the world I see and how I perceive it? If this chaos is happening in my life how am I projecting this chaos onto others?

One thing that never even crossed my mind is that I was setting myself up for heart break. There were things that I was doing that was shaping the world around me as I knew it. The crazy thing was I was stuck in the mindset of pointing fingers and blaming others. Not taking responsibility for how I was allowing things to happen in my life. The universe is going to give you what you believe you deserve. The universe was going to send back to me exactly what I was giving to myself and others. I didn’t believe I deserved love. I didn’t believe it. I certainly didn’t think I was receiving it. At least not what I expected love to be. Since I didn’t believe I deserved love I really never allowed anyone to really love me or get close to me. Maybe I was setting my expectations too high. Maybe my expectations of how things were supposed to happen were hindering me from seeing the full picture.

It was time. It was time for change. No one could change the world around me but me. It all started with me therefore I had to be the start of the change. I started really looking at myself. What were things I liked about me? What were things I disliked about me? What were things I was grateful for in my life? What were things I wanted to change? I needed a new perspective. I started doing one thing every day to show myself I loved me. I started naming things I was grateful for every day. I was working out and eating better. I never miss a Monday. I was reading blogs and learning about being mindful. I began to keep a journal and work on my Chakras. I was starting to see that through my healing process the world around me was healing too. As I let my light shine the people around me were also starting to change. Through my journal I was beginning to accept and love myself for who I was. I began to identify and associating my actions with emotions. I began to really understand myself and how I was interacting and shaping the world around me. When I would have a set back I started to show myself little compassion. Which lead to me showing others compassion. In the past where I had difficulty with empathy it was now becoming so much easier. It all started with little steps I began to take to show myself the love I had been searching for and giving to others. 

Plunging deeper into my self-discovery I really began to think. If I am capable to rebuilding the world around me maybe my story can help someone rebuild the world around them starting a chain reaction. Our perception is our reality. We are all a product of the environments we live in. Think about it, what if we (you and me) really took a good look at the world we see. What if we started to make little changes within ourselves. What if these changes with in ourselves allowed us to experience real unconditional love. These changes would then allow us to meet others just as they are. No judgement, no blame, no shame, no guilt and especially no expectation.

Youmeandtheworldyoursee?

If you are reading this I am sure you are wondering by now what is youmeandtheworldyousee?

To be 100% honest I am not sure exactly what youmeandtheworldyousee will end up being. I was just one soul on a journey dedicated to lifting others to become the best versions of themselves. Ultimately, hoping to lead others to the path of living their most abundant life.

At the beginning of my journey I made a Facebook page. I first created youmeandtheworldyousee to document my journey. The journey of my own self-discovery which led me to find my intuition and spiritual beliefs. I told myself “If this page only helps one person and it is me I will consider it successful”. Everyday my one thought turns into something I never imagined and something far greater.

If you would like to know more about me please click the about me button (currently working on the content) on the home page. I work on my page as I am drawn. Time is relative and the page will build itself (so I am being told).

What you can expect:

  • First and foremost. You do not have to be spiritual to find this information useful. There will be plenty of content that can be used in a non spiritul way that can assist in goal setting, building self-confidence, developing love for self and others, mindfulness and much more.
  • You will never hear/read me preach that religion is right or wrong. I believe that every soul is on their own journey and have a desire to connect to something larger than themselves. I believe that through unconditional love of self you can meet people as you find them greeting them with compassion and acceptance for who they are right as you meet them (no judgement/no expectation).
  • I hope to bring some knowledge to people like myself that find themselves at a crossroads in their life. It may be an awakening, it may be a journey to find themselves and want to become more confident in their own skin.Whatever the reason my goal is for everyone to feel welcomed. I am a true believer that knowledge is power.
  • Emotion! Real emotion. I plan on telling my story and talking about parts of my journey because for me it is therapeutic and through my healing I know there will be healing for others.
  • My journey (awakening) left me searching for answers. I will discuss the findings of my search. I know that I am not the only one looking for answers. I mean if you think back to grade school when the teacher said ” if you have a question ask it because I am sure others want to know too”. Well, I will do it. I will ask the questions and find the answers and put them out there for the world to read.
  • I do offer some services. As I become more confident in my abilities and if drawn to I imagine that my list of services will grow.

Be on the look out for my about me link. We are all a work in progress to include this page… I am so excited to talk to you! Love and Light

Chrissy