Dear Universe, Guardian Angels, ancestors and spirit guides,
I know that through you all is possible. I set the intention that this blog provide guidance, healing and inspiration to those that read it. I ask that it assist them in making mindful decisions that may impact their life path. My will, Thy will, Divine will. Thank you for all you do.
What do we need to know in regards to the decisions we are currently struggling with?
The answer to your question has already been given to you multiple times. The problem is not what you need to know. It is what you need to do. The answer was presented to you the first time you asked it. You didn’t listen. You can ask and rephrase the question as many times as you would like but you are going to continue to get the same answer.
Your intuition will never lead you in the wrong direction. You decided to take the middle road. Remember the middle road is the long way. You will still have to learn a few lessons because you chose not address them head on. Addressing your problems head on is always the answer. Speak up if it is what you are feeling. Stand up for what you believe in. You have to do what is right for you. Unfortunately, sometimes what is right for you will not sit well with others. It may even hurt them.
You know that you manifest your reality. So do it. Manifest your reality. If you can think it, you can dream it. You can live it. Remember it takes work. Sometimes hard work. It all starts with you. What are you doing in the now that is influencing the outcome you want? Is there forward movement being made? Are you just getting impatient because you want to rush to the finish line? What are you learning in the moment? Pay close attention there are lessons to be learned. Continue to build your foundation. Bring balance back into your life. When the foundation is built on sturdy ground you will find that it can withstand the strongest storms.
Pay attention! The universe and your spiritual team are constantly sending you signs. They may be in the form of repeating numbers. The words of a song might lead to answers. Feel the energy around you. Close your eyes and just breath. The answers come in many ways. You will know the answer that is meant for you. You will feel it! Let your heart be your guide. Allow your heart to open and lead the way.
It is not a time to rush anything. You are making life changing decisions. You have to do it at the pace that is right for you. Right now it is time to look at the things that are working in your favor. What is currently thriving? Put your good energy into that. Really, look at where you are finding your happiness. Are you finding your happiness from within or searching for it through external factors? Are you cultivating an environment that is nurturing your growth or hindering your growth? Is there anything you can do in the now that can assist while the universe catches up with your dream? These are the real questions that you need to be asking yourself. These are the questions that will facilitate action.
Know that no matter where you are right now, you are on the right path for you. There is no wrong way. There are only lessons that will be learned that lead to your destiny. You have to have faith and trust. Rely on your faith. Take it one step at a time. One hour at a time, even one minute at a time if that is what it takes for you to stay present. Divine timing is a real thing. Continue to focus on being the best version of yourself. Put your good energy into that. When you make a decision stand behind that decision and embrace whatever comes your way with confidence. Do not allow others to influence what is right for you. Only you know what is right for you. Remember, you are the co-creator of your life.
One day you are high on cloud nine. Everything seems to be going your way. You know and can see that everything is working in your favor and you are co-creating the life that you are destined for. Then suddenly life throws you a curve ball. You had a plan and the universe decided that nope you still have lessons to learn. You know where you are going but just not the how. The not knowing can be a scary thing. There is a reason for it all. There is a reason everything cannot always go how you plan them. The universe is trying to show you a new path or lead you in a way that will cultivate your growth. I am told to tell you to release the fear. Take the leap. Take your fear and turn it into motivation. Don’t allow it to be a reason for you to stay where you are.
When you start allowing the not knowing the how or why you begin to live out of fear. You start to question yourself and wonder if you were even actually doing the work. Shoot you may even begin to think that you were the one that was causing all the trauma and the toxic one the whole time. What if I told you that is just your fear speaking to you? The fear of going backwards. The fear of change. The fear of rejection. The fear of moving forward and making the decisions for your higher good. The list of fears can go on forever. In some this may be a fear that if you leave a situation that you may lose that person forever. My response to you would be what if you find yourself in the process. What if you find that you never really lose anything that is meant for you? That at the time it is in your life it was something you needed. By letting it go you will find that new opportunities for growth will come your way. That through one loss you are rewarded with something else.
Fear is one of the biggest contributing factors when it comes to making life changing decisions. Some fear the loss of a person. Others fear being alone. The fear of not being good enough. There are people that have built lives based on status and material things(money) due to the fear of poverty. The fear of being perceived as a failure. The fear of ___________ (you name it) it exists in someone’s world.
You must ask yourself “what am I really scared of”? Why am I holding on so tight to something that continues to bring be back to the same answer? “Let go! Move on! If it is meant for you it will find you”. It is hard to remember what yours is already yours and no one can ever really take it from you. Unless you allow it. It is your choice. What are you going to do? Are you going to continue to allow fear to run your life, or are you going to take that fear and use it to propel you forward?
There is only one thing blocking you from having the life you desire. Look in the mirror all the answers you need are within the person staring back at you. Stop letting the fear of the unknown be why you don’t do something. Don’t sell yourself short. You are worthy and deserving of everything you dream of. You must put in some work. Release the fear! Let it go. Use that fear as a force that influences you to make decision that are for your highest good.
I have struggled for the past couple days trying to figure out what I am going to write my next blog about. I have wrote down a plethora of different ideas. Started to write a ton of topic sentences all to draw a blank and delete. I have sat here looking at a blank screen for days. I set the intention for this blog to find the people that need to read it at the time that is meant for them. Let it bring insight and guidance as they make decisions on their life path. My will, thy will, divine will.
Suddenly as I sit hear listening to some calming music the idea pops into my head that I had already wrote my next blog. I had to start with what I believe. What a great way to start the year off. Start it off reaffirming what you value and believe. I actually wrote this back in December but never posted it. I am now being told the time is now.
Loving yourself unconditionally is the key to connecting to source. I believe that everything is energetically connected. We are all part of this great universe and the universe is part of us. I believe that we should treat others with respect and kindness. Compassion, acceptance and living out of a place on non-judgement is the key to maintain a frequency that aligns with the frequency of the universe. Always receive your energy from source by aligning with the higher frequencies. This allows you to use your energy in such ways that benefit all that you encounter.
All souls have a divine purpose and their life is their purpose. I whole heartily believe that love is the key to the return of humanity. That the return starts with each individual being. Forgiveness is never for the receiver but for the person forgiving. Forgiving yourself for past judgements, actions, and sabotaging behaviors is the key to releasing blockages. This allows each person to receive and lived their abundant life in the now. Self-reflection allows for the identification and clearing of all blockages. This is on both the physical and non-physical level. It is key to remember that we are not the decisions of others. We are only the decision that we make. Our actions are the only actions that we can control in our life time. Every action, every decision is your energy used to shape your life. It is important to use your energy in the most positive ways to ensure the universe can deliver the life you are destined to live.
Through the nurturing of children to include your inner child there is healing. Healing yourself will naturally help heal those around you. The world as you know it will start to change drastically. Showing yourself compassion allows for you to show compassion for others. Loving yourself allows you to love others. Release all fears, judgements and guilt associated with the past. The past is no longer. The future has not yet arrived. There is only right now this present moment so how present do you want to be?
Speak your truth. Be mindful with your thoughts and words. Your thoughts quickly become your reality. Your words will not only influence your life but the life of others. Still honor your truth. This must be done in such a way that you honor yourself and your emotions. Your truth and desires may not always align with others. That is to be expected. Everyone is on their own path. However, it is important to remember that they also have a truth. It is not your place to judge. It is your place to accept they are just on a different path and have not yet learned or understand yet. Show them they are still worthy of love and see them for who they are. People deserve to be loved for just existing.
Do not be afraid of releasing things that no longer serve you. Sometimes things just are not meant for you any longer. Trust that what is yours will always return to you. Believe and have faith. Those that love you will find you. It is your job to be grateful for what you have now so when you receive your destiny you will understand the true value of how you got there. The present moments are the key to unveiling that destiny. So be present. Tell those you love you love them. Make it known that you are there even if they can’t hear you.
Opportunities will arise. Take every opportunity. Every person you encounter will have a purpose. There is a lesson to learn or a message to receive from everyone. Be open to those lessons. Allow them to guide you forward on your journey. Do not live out a place of fear. Fear will hold you back from achieving everything you desire. Live fearlessly!
Life will not always be easy. That is because there are lessons to be learned. In those times do not act in haste. Let the chaos subside and come at it with a clear mind. Sit with yourself and listen to your inner voice. It will never lead you astray. The hard lessons in life are the ones where you gain the most wisdom. Your darkest moments will be the moments that inspire others.
Rest and self-care are key to regaining energy. Make sure that you take care of yourself. You are worthy or rest. You are worthy to be cared for. Make yourself a priority. When you make yourself a priority you are telling others that you are deserving.
You cannot always be the giver. You deserve to receive too. In the past you have always gave everything to others. You have always accepted less in return. Those days are no longer. Continue to give with no expectations. This will allow you to receive. Be a good receiver. You are just as deserving as everyone else.
Do not compare yourself to others. You can never be another and another can never be you. There is only one you in the universe and you are that missing piece to the puzzle. There is no one that can ever be or love like you. Your love is special. Your love heals. Your love is the most special kind of love because it is unconditional. It is the love that releases all judgments and meets people on the most intimate level. Allow others to show you this love too. Do not close yourself off.
Continue to cultivate the light inside you. Do not let it dim to make others comfortable. Continue to break the habits of negative self-talk and replacing it with favorable self-assurance. Do not lose sight of your passion because your passion leads you to your destiny. Working hard is your normal. Don’t forget to enjoy the achievements that have been afforded to you. Acknowledge them and appreciate them. These are the foundation to where you are going. The life you always dreamed is happening for you. See it! Envision it! Know it! Believe in it!
When ever I type my Dear Universe blogs I always set an intention. As I begin to type this blog I feel the desire to do the same. I set the intention for this to find you at the moment that you need to read it. I ask that I provide you a message that you need that assist you as you navigate your life path.
This journey of life sure does bring a lot of twist and turns. People come and go from your life. Some may just be passing through, others may stay for your whole life. When you first meet someone you may not even realize how important a particular relationship will be in your life. It’s crazy how one beginning can lead to eye opening endings or major life changing event. Sometimes people get stuck in the idea of what happened in the past or what the future holds. When this happens we lose sight of where we are in the present. Other times we may find that we lost our identities by allowing the external factors/people we interact with to influence the way we feel, speak and see ourselves. For some this could be a parent. Others this person may be an intimate relationship or marriage. The crazy reality is yes, these relationships are important but they are not the most important human relationship you will have in your life time. I am in no way implying that these relationships may not have significant impacts in your life. They definitely will. They will in some way make a mark on your life line. However, there is one relationship that really impacts everything you experience. The most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the relationship you have with yourself..
The relationship with yourself is one of the most important human relationships you will ever have. So talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love. When I am working with people one of my favorite tasks to give them is to write a love letter. I ask them to write a love letter to themselves that includes all the things they want to hear from the person they love. Then I tell them to read it out loud so they can hear these words. There is power in hearing the words and saying them out loud. It allows a person to see that they already have all the things they want from another person inside of them. The letter just bring it to the surface. Opening their eyes to the love they are capable of giving themselves. It allows them to see they are capable of speaking love and kindness into their own existence.
It is important to remember the way you talk to yourself not only impacts your life they also impact the life of others. The words that come out of your mouth influence how others perceive you. They shape your world which is your reality. Once words leave the mind/mouth and are heard by yourself and others they can not be taken back. The words and the energy/intention behind them are then processed by the universe, your mind or another person. Words are powerful! The can heal and they can hurt. So I ask you how are you using your words? Are the words you are using enforcing an emotional reaction to control or manipulate a situation? Are they being used in a way that communicates your wants needs and desires accurately? Have you really thought about the why behind the words you use? It is hard to do that. It requires self-reflection. Your words are shaping the relationship you have with yourself and with others.
It is equally important for you to speak good into the lives of others. Yes! Speak good and want for healing and abundance in the lives of the people you hold dear, people you do not know and even people that have not had good intentions in your personal life. Why, would you want to speak good into the lives of others that have questionable intentions toward you? Well, remember everything is energy and energy is everything. We are all energetically connected. Therefore, ultimately we are the energy we put out and how we chose to use the energy we receive. I could go on and on about that but simply put wanting more for others could be that one shift that brings desirable outcomes in the lives of others. This does not mean if you speak good for others you will not deal with undesirable life events. You certainly will. We are all souls living a human experience. The human experience is filled with unexpected events both desirable and undesirable.
For now we are just going to focus on YOU, the person reading this blog. Start focusing on how you talk to yourself. I want you to repeat after me. I am abundant! I am strong! I am worthy! Now continue to repeat it as many times as it takes for you to believe it. It is important to be very aware of your words. The words that you use shape everything. They have power. The subconscious mind is programmable. It believes anything you tell it. It is imperative that you talk to yourself like you would talk to someone you love. You must talk and believe that you are valuable because you are. There is only one you in the whole entire universe and it is the most important relationship you will have with a human being this lifetime.
Picture yourself on a road. No idea what road you are on but it is definitely a road. This road consists of twists, turns, stops, traffic accidents, pot holes, road rage and many other things (that only scratches the surface of the road). All we know is that we are on a road and have no idea where it is going to take us. No one really tells you that on your trip there are so many miracles or beautiful sites to see. They always just mention what you should really watch out for along your journey. Realistically it keeps you kinda blinded. Never really able to enjoy the road trip for exactly what it is. An Adventure!
An adventure! Ha! Some would say 2020 took the word adventure to a new level. Yet, Here we are. The last day of 2020. If I was to tell you this was the best year of my life I would flat out be lying to you. 2020 was one of the hardest years of my life. One day I am sure I will write a tell all that will go into great detail of what i am talking about but not today. I would say that 2020 caused me to lose myself, but that also would be a lie. I had lost myself long before 2020 came along. It was not the hardest because I lost things like others. It was hard because I had to come to terms with myself. I had to come to terms with how I was choosing to create the world I was living in. My eyes were certainly opened to the fact that I was not loving myself and it had been a long time since I really had. Sometimes the hardest moments in our lives come when you are facing yourself in the mirror. I guess that it could be argued that through the chaos of 2020 finding myself was a blessing and therefore 2020 was a blessing in disguise.
Yes, 2020 was hard. For many 2020 was devastating. For me it has also been the year that has lead me to freedom. It has lead me to learn techniques and see myself in a new light. The light that has always been there and that I have always searched for through my sabotaging behaviors. Now to say that I still don’t get challenged and triggers would not be true. I definitely do. When you are on a road to self-discovery and living in the present all days will not be a piece of cake. Do I think that 2021 is going to be the best year of my life? IDK… What I do know is that 2020 gave me the tools, knowledge, motivation and awareness that I need to move forward with a positive and optimistic mindset.
Every New Years Eve I listen to people getting all their resolutions ready. Some people might decide to hit the gym. Others may decide to embark on a road to a new career. Yet some might just be hoping and praying that 2021 takes it a little easier on them. I on the other hand am throwing my hands up and continuing to take the big leap of faith. I am a true believer that everything I am experiencing and going through has a specific purpose. Even the things I would rather not deal with. Then again, I have never been a big resolution person. I have never been the person that starts things in the beginning of the year just because the year reset. I have always been the I will start something when I am ready to do it. As I type right now I can hear my spiritual team laughing at me not because it is funny. They are laughing because it is the absolute truth. I have always took the harder roads.
This year I am sticking to my guns. I will not make a resolution. I don’t have the want or desire to do it. One thing I have learned is that it is perfectly fine to not do things. Especially if you do not want to and they do not resonate with you. I do know what I am going to do. I am going into this new year with an open mind. I am choosing to embrace whatever 2021 throws at me knowing that I am fully capable of handling it with grace and ease. No resolutions for me!!! Not a one. I will however choose to continue to move forward with trusting my intuition. I will continue to leave behind the things that don’t serve my higher-self.
Maybe you, yes you reading this will find yourself in a very similar mindset. How about you? Are you making any resolutions? In reality I have no idea where I am going in 2021 but I know I am going somewhere.
Dear Universe, Guardian Angles, Ascend Masters, Ancestors and Spirit Guides,
I come to you and ask for your guidance. I set the intention that the message I receive will be out of a place of love. I ask that the highest quality message be provide. So that it may reach the people that need to read it at the time they come across it. I ask the message provide wisdom and guidance. Leading others along their path. Providing them the tools they need to make the decisions required along their path to their most abundant life. Through you I know all is possible. My will, Thy will, Divine Will.
Question: Why is it so hard to speak my truth? Why when I speak my truth do I worry about how others are feeling or going to react.
There are people that have no issues speaking for what they feel or believe in. For you it is very hard. It is hard because some of your truths will be frowned upon by people that you once trusted and loved. You should not let that hinder you from speaking up. If you continue to not honor yourself you are teaching others to not honor you. You are not your past. The past is the lessons you have learned. Those lessons have assist you to this very moment on your path. What you really need to do is accept. Accept yourself and the decisions you have made during your life time. Especially because you can not go back and change them. You can only glance back at them. Thank yourself and the universe for the lessons that came with those decisions. Allow them to assist you as you continue to grow and move forward. Love yourself for them because look where they have led.
You worry about how others feel because that is what you have been taught. You have been taught and led to believe that you should always put others before yourself. In times when you have put yourself first you have been made to feel selfish. It is not selfish to be you. You are not the same as others. You feel what they feel even when you tell yourself you don’t. Your intentions are never to hurt others even though sometimes you will and you have. As much as you say that you are heartless you very much are the opposite. It is okay that you care about what others feel. Your heart is large and your love is strong. It is your biggest strength. Do not look at it as a weakness. Release the guilt you hold for being you. If you do not speak your truth at the expense of how others might feel then you are only making yourself a prisoner of that person. You have needs and desires just like the next person. Forgive yourself! Forgiveness is for you not for anyone else. Through forgiveness there is freedom. Do not be consumed by how others will react. Doing so gives them power over your life. This is your life to live not theirs.
In this life you are here to have the human experience. Do not lose sight of that. You are human. You will make mistakes. Your decisions will not always align with that of another. It is their decisions on how they allow actions of others to influence their life. It is only your responsibility to focus on how you respond in your own life. We want you to really think on this. Is it really that it is hard to speak your truth? What are you really worried about. We know you are worried about how others will perceive you. Our response to that is that is their burden to carry not yours. You are just making decisions in your own life the best way that you know how. We watch you and we see you. As long as you continue to set good intentions everything will work out in your favor.
It is so very import for you to remember how you speak to yourself. How you speak to yourself is how you allow others to speak to you. We know you are nervous about decisions you will have to make. Have faith and trust that these decisions will be for your highest good. One day you will look back and ask yourself why didn’t you do it sooner. Do not worry about the material things in the world. When you place value on the material things of the world you can not see the beauty in everything else around you. You will miss opportunities that are being placed right in front of you. Each moment in your life was created just for you. Never lose sight of that.
You have conditioned your mind to believe that things are much worse than they actually are. These thoughts are what actually hinder your forward movement. Your thoughts quickly become your reality. Sometimes your mind is going to play tricks on you. The mind has been influenced by so many things throughout your life time. Some of those things the mind knows are sabotaging behaviors due to your past traumas/actions. That is where you are now. You are so focused on the external factors (others) that you are failing to see what is really happening. You are failing to see how you are allowing these influences to take hold of you. Break the habit. Do not allow the thoughts of others to consume you. Do not allow the external influence your internal being. You are only harming yourself when you let that happen. The healing process is on going and never really over. You have the tools and knowledge to navigate the days with grace.
You were born to overcome. You were born to have success. You were born to lead others through your life. Your life is your story. Write the best story you can. Right now is where you start the next chapter. You must be very aware of the words you allow into your mind. Be kind to yourself. When you are kind to yourself you can be kind to others. When others are not kind to you still be kind to them. It costs you nothing. Let their actions be their actions. Their actions are not a reflection of you. They are a reflection of themselves. Remember and never forget your actions are the only actions you have any control over. Your actions also are the only actions that you have to answer for. Do not allow the judgement of others impact how you see yourself. Also do not judge others for having judgements. You do not know what they have endured on their path.
Dear Universe, Guardian Angels, Ancestors and Spirit Guides,
I first want to thank you for always answering my call. I see the signs you have been sending. Thank you for all that you do for me. I am forever grateful. I ask that you provide a message of the highest quality. Please allow your message to be read by the people that need to read it at the exact moment they need to read it. Allow it to provide healing, purpose and guidance that will lead them to their life’s purpose. My will, Thy will, Divine Will…
In order to find your life’s purpose you must first look at your life. Look around you. Look at your situation. Look at where you have come from. You must look at you. You are the key to understanding your purpose. Inside you are all the keys to unlocking this purpose. The thing you really need to know right now is that you are exactly where you need to be. Everything that you have done, your family has done, people around you have done have lead you right to this moment. There are moments that you are not even aware of that have brought you right here. The short answer is YES you have a purpose.
Your purpose is to show people the light inside you. The light inside you is your direct line to source. You are the missing piece in the universe. You must accept that you will think differently compared to others. You are not meant to be like everyone else. You are meant to stand out from the crowd. You are meant to be a leader in your world. The key to moving forward is to change the way you use and understand energy. You must understand that your energy is key to where you go from this point forward. To do this you must release judgements that you impose of yourself. These judgements will only hold you back.
Understand that we know that you feel like so much is being thrown at you all at once, but the reality is this is the path you took. You wanted the harder path. Know the harder path will allow you to reach others that could have never been reached before. Remember the darkest moments of your life are the moments that you draw your strength from. Use them to cultivate your whole being. The whole being is the key to your purpose. You can be all things. You just have to believe it. You were destined for this. You are made by the creator and are the co-creator of your life. Through co-creating your life you will help others find their paths and purposes.
Never doubt you have a purpose. You just can’t see the finish line. Be in the moment. Every person that you encounter has a potential message for you to learn. Make sure you are paying attention. Each person you meet deserves to be seen. See them, know they are there. There are some that will teach you lessons about things that don’t serve you. There are some that will teach you how to grow. There are others that will teach you about pain. What if the ones that teach you about pain are the ones that loved you the most but just couldn’t love themselves? Show everyone compassion, love and acceptance. Forgive yourself when you feel that you are being judgmental. It just means you are seeing something in you that brings out emotion. Identify those emotions. Doing so will provide you the tools to navigate this world more freely. It will allow you to clear your mind and see things as they really are.
Sit with yourself. Write down every idea you have. Keep a dream journal. Also speak your truth. Don’t hold back your emotions because you are afraid of being vulnerable. Vulnerability is a strength. Continue to change your thinking patterns. You are headed in the right direction. Divine timing is everything. Things may not make a lot of sense right now, but you will see when the time is right. Do not give up hope. Do not let the thoughts, ideas and beliefs of others control you. Draw your power from source not people. Always come back to source.
Do not be afraid. This is just the beginning. Remember one thing. Remember that your energy is everything. Remember the universal laws. Your energy is what connects you to ALL creation. Just continue to believe. Continue to be you. The true authentic you. Let your light shine. Allow it to lead the way for others. You are the missing piece to the universe. Yes, you have a purpose. Your life is your purpose.
The most common question I get asked is “What did you do to tune into your intuition”? The answer is, the universe decided for me. The universe decided enough was enough. It was time for me to wake up. I had to go through a lot of things and learn a lot of hard lessons. I took the hard road often. I still stumble upon that hard road at times. I have 40 years of built up ideals and thought patterns lol… To be totally honest when I was first awakened I was scared out of my mind. I thought I was going crazy. I decided that I needed to learn more about my gifts. I need to learn about them to cultivate them. I did this because I really wanted to understand them. Not to mention I wanted to use my gifts to help lift others up. I had this deep knowing inside of me that I am supposed to help others and assist them along their life journey. As crazy as it was the universe was waking me up and igniting my passion.
It really was a combination of a few small steps everyday. Everyday I made an honest effort to understand myself more and really getting to know who I was, where I came from and what made me tick. I started making mindful decisions and directed my energy on focusing on loving myself, cultivating a better environment internally and externally.These things consisted of working out, meditating, reading books, keeping a journal and taking classes are a few examples. I even started researching my family linage. Out of all the things I did, the one thing that helped me connect and understand the most was sitting with myself. I had to quiet the mind. I had to let go of judgement, guilt and shame. I learned the importance of breath, identifying my energy, releasing energy and trusting in my spiritual team/universe.
Let me tell you it has not been easy. Some days are harder than others. There are days that I wake up and think I do not want to do this today. Some days I wake up and think things are too good to be true. Then I have to choose to replace those thoughts. I start with a routine. I visualize the good that I know and see going on in my life. It helps bring me right into the present moment. Other days I wake up on top of my game. The key is everyday I wake up and make a choice. I choose to give the most honest attempt to live out of a place of love, gratitude and appreciation for the day and all the things in it. It does get easier the more you do it. Soon you begin to realize even the days that used to cripple you are not as bad as you once thought.
Another question I get asked is “What do you have to give up to be in tune with your abilities?” Well, to be honest I don’t feel like I have given up anything. Have I stopped doing things that I would have done in the past? Absolutely! Are their behaviors that I have changed? Yes! Do I feel like I gave them up? No. I have the choice/free will to do and participate in the human experience just like everyone else. There are things I choose not to do because I just choose not to.
The big misconception about being spiritual is that you live the life of a saint or that you don’t have bad days. The fact is it is quite the opposite. Now this is what I believe and know to be true through guidance I have received. We are all human living the human experience. Your experience is just that your experience. It is ultimately your choice how you live it. The real question is where and how do you want to exchange your energy. Being spiritual means you deal with energy. All types of energy. Which means you also deal with emotion, and people. It also means you have wants, needs and desires too. My advice is always this. Don’t feel like you have to five something up to be in tune with your abilities. Sometimes it is just that our old choices and actions don’t align anymore.
Its really all about acceptance. Understanding that you have been through things. You have made choices and done things. That is the past. The past has taught you lessons on what serves you and what no longer serves you. You can’t change it so you accept it. Continuing to worry about the could have, would have, should have just hinders your ability to see the now and the growth/progress you have made since then. My advice there is love yourself through those moments. Show yourself some compassion. We are just souls living the human experience using our knowledge and tools to the best we can.
I also get a lot of questions in regards to how did you do your shadow work? Where did you start? How painful is it? Like I mentioned earlier, the universe kinda decided my awakening for me. The universe wake up! Look yourself in the mirror! What are you doing? Everything that triggered me was thrown at me all at one time. A ton of change was thrown at me all at one. Looking back I see that the universe was trying to get my attention for a while now. I just was closed minded. So I was slapped in the face with all my insecurities, judgements, guilt, heartbreak and anything I may have suppressed. I just had to make the choice to do the work because things were happening and out of my own hands. The only way for me to move forward was to face myself. I did A LOT more meditation. I still do a lot more meditation. I constantly have to take time outs and assess actions with the emotions that I may be feeling. I have been through a life time of living. I have people, events and things that trigger me. Understanding what my triggers are and how to identify when I am being triggered takes some work. It can be a little painful but it also is very liberating. There is freedom in it so embrace it.
Honestly, I really do not like the “shadow work” term. I know not everyone will agree but it really has you focus on the parts of you that you hide and do accept. Don’t get me wrong. I do believe that you have to love every part of yourself unconditionally. This includes the parts of you that you do not like or may hide from yourself and the world. I don’t like that sometimes it is interpreted as that is the only thing you have to work on to connect, release blockages and unlock yourself to connect to higher. Don”t get me wrong. I am in no way shape or form saying to not identify the parts of yourself that cause self-judgement, guilt, shame and unworthiness. It is definitely a needed and required process to develop your intuition so you really trust, listen and understand it. Looking yourself in the mirror and retraining the subconscious is one of the hardest things i have ever had to do. In my situation it was all about the whole being. All of me . I focused on the shadow-side and light-side together because it was what I needed to do on my path for growth. I like to refer to it as “Whole-Being work”.
I really believe it should be called “Whole Being work”. This is what I envision and what has worked for me. It is a combination of focusing your energy on loving and understanding your emotions on all levels. The emotions associated with traumas and the emotions associated with achievement/feeling love etc… It’s all about cultivating the internal environment (soul) and finding a way to have balance and love for all of you. You can’t just focus on the traumas. Especially if you are like me. I was the person that could easily get stuck in past cycles. I needed to focus on cultivating the good with the not so good. The shadow side is definitely part of you and that is perfectly fine. We are all imperfectly perfect. Do not forget that. Your shadow side teaches lessons to lead to wisdom. However, you have strengths and abilities that also need your attention. Your strengths and abilities are there to help you navigate things life throws at you. We lean on our strengths during tough times. Therefore, they need to be nourished and loved also. Thus the idea of “whole being work”.
This is what has worked for me. When I made the choice to really understand my gift I took an approach that focused on me as a whole. I didn’t just work on healing the traumas or what I hid from everyone else. I also worked on my strengths and used the things I knew I was good at to help me make positive change. This allowed me to work on my internal environment and external environment simultaneously. I also want to add that this in a continuous process. Even now I am taking small steps daily to continue to grow my gift and cultivate/manifest my most abundant life by taking an active role as the co-creator.
When I say it starts with you and the world you see. It is the truth. We manifest the worlds we live in. Have you ever felt like you were unlovable? What made you feel unlovable? There could have been a multitude of events/traumas that happened in your childhood or even adult life that lead you to feeling that you were unlovable. Maybe, just maybe you have been trained to believe that love is conditional. Would you believe me if I told you it is because you have only received conditional love in your lifetime? This may not be true for all but I know that many can relate. If you are feeling unlovable I want to assure you that you are in fact lovable. I love you just for existing. This doesn’t mean that we have to be best friends or agree about everything. It just means I love you no conditions, judgments or stipulations. Does not mean I have to like you at times or agree with you always. I can just love you because I choose to.
I am not unlovable. Let me make that very clear. I realize that now. I am very lovable and very capable of loving others. I was just lost for a long time. I know there are many others across the globe that have trained their minds to believe external factors and traumas they have endured have in fact made them feel unlovable. This is a false belief. It is everyone’s birthright to be loved unconditionally. Can you think of a time that you looked at a person and loved them for just existing? Not for what they stood for, how they looked or their status. When was the last time you looked at yourself and just loved yourself for existing? Did you know that you can only love another person as much as you love yourself? This was such an important statement for me to hear. Especially as a mother. I am cultivating and developing the minds of what I hope to be well rounded adults one day.
It is very unfortunate that a large part of the population have never really understood what it means to be loved unconditionally. Loving unconditionally means a person is shown love without stipulations. It is accepting someone for all they are without judgement. Not for who they are, what they stand for, how they look and where they come from. Loved just as they are in the skin they are in. There are no requirements. No tests to pass or boxes to check. Just loved for existing. It is one of the hardest things to accomplish because as individuals we are constantly judging and comparing ourselves to the world we live in. We are all a product of our upbringing. Many of us have been trained (programmed) to think that love is based on meeting requirements(conditions).
Now, I want to focus on the world I see. When I started my journey the idea of showing myself unconditional love was difficult. There were so many things about myself I though we unlovable. I really struggled with it. Some days I still struggle with it. It’s an ongoing learning process. I have spent the majority of my life giving and receiving conditional love. I don’t know that I have ever really experienced love for just existing until I started practicing it myself. In order to get to a place where I could start to love myself unconditionally I first had to identify what I disliked about myself. What about me did I feel made me unlovable. I had to start loving them parts of me because if I couldn’t do it someone else definitely wouldn’t be able to.
Let me tell you it is hard. It is hard to dredge up the deepest darkest parts of yourself that you hid from the world . Then embrace, accept and love yourself for them. It is an emotional roller coaster but worth it. When you finally get to a place where you experience unconditional love through self-demonstration or through others you feel completely seen. We all want to be seen. We all have a purpose. We all want to be accepted for who we are in the present. Not for the circumstances that we experienced.
Unconditional love allows us to really be our authentic self.
I want to leave you with this. Some food for thought. Something for you to chew on. What conditions have you set for yourself or someone else when it comes to love. How do they restrict you or them? How does it influence the world you see?