When I say it starts with you and the world you see. It is the truth. We manifest the worlds we live in. Have you ever felt like you were unlovable? What made you feel unlovable? There could have been a multitude of events/traumas that happened in your childhood or even adult life that lead you to feeling that you were unlovable. Maybe, just maybe you have been trained to believe that love is conditional. Would you believe me if I told you it is because you have only received conditional love in your lifetime? This may not be true for all but I know that many can relate. If you are feeling unlovable I want to assure you that you are in fact lovable. I love you just for existing. This doesn’t mean that we have to be best friends or agree about everything. It just means I love you no conditions, judgments or stipulations. Does not mean I have to like you at times or agree with you always. I can just love you because I choose to.
I am not unlovable. Let me make that very clear. I realize that now. I am very lovable and very capable of loving others. I was just lost for a long time. I know there are many others across the globe that have trained their minds to believe external factors and traumas they have endured have in fact made them feel unlovable. This is a false belief. It is everyone’s birthright to be loved unconditionally. Can you think of a time that you looked at a person and loved them for just existing? Not for what they stood for, how they looked or their status. When was the last time you looked at yourself and just loved yourself for existing? Did you know that you can only love another person as much as you love yourself? This was such an important statement for me to hear. Especially as a mother. I am cultivating and developing the minds of what I hope to be well rounded adults one day.
It is very unfortunate that a large part of the population have never really understood what it means to be loved unconditionally. Loving unconditionally means a person is shown love without stipulations. It is accepting someone for all they are without judgement. Not for who they are, what they stand for, how they look and where they come from. Loved just as they are in the skin they are in. There are no requirements. No tests to pass or boxes to check. Just loved for existing. It is one of the hardest things to accomplish because as individuals we are constantly judging and comparing ourselves to the world we live in. We are all a product of our upbringing. Many of us have been trained (programmed) to think that love is based on meeting requirements(conditions).
Now, I want to focus on the world I see. When I started my journey the idea of showing myself unconditional love was difficult. There were so many things about myself I though we unlovable. I really struggled with it. Some days I still struggle with it. It’s an ongoing learning process. I have spent the majority of my life giving and receiving conditional love. I don’t know that I have ever really experienced love for just existing until I started practicing it myself. In order to get to a place where I could start to love myself unconditionally I first had to identify what I disliked about myself. What about me did I feel made me unlovable. I had to start loving them parts of me because if I couldn’t do it someone else definitely wouldn’t be able to.
Let me tell you it is hard. It is hard to dredge up the deepest darkest parts of yourself that you hid from the world . Then embrace, accept and love yourself for them. It is an emotional roller coaster but worth it. When you finally get to a place where you experience unconditional love through self-demonstration or through others you feel completely seen. We all want to be seen. We all have a purpose. We all want to be accepted for who we are in the present. Not for the circumstances that we experienced.
Unconditional love allows us to really be our authentic self.
I want to leave you with this. Some food for thought. Something for you to chew on. What conditions have you set for yourself or someone else when it comes to love. How do they restrict you or them? How does it influence the world you see?